Comments on: And to all a good night. http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/ Like Mr. Furious with a really nice handbag. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:27:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Berry http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7971 Berry Thu, 03 Jan 2008 21:24:05 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7971 Hey Chica. I haven't been blog hopping in so long it feels like I am a newbie. Just checking to see who is still onboard. Hope all is well. -Berry Hey Chica. I haven’t been blog hopping in so long it feels like I am a newbie. Just checking to see who is still onboard. Hope all is well.

-Berry

]]> By: V. http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7970 V. Sat, 29 Dec 2007 17:01:21 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7970 Sid -- Wow. I think that you've got a leg up on me in the kid department. I still feel like I'm fumbling around in the dark at times. At least parenting is the one area where "good enough" goes alright. If you mess up every now and then in little ways, it's not like your kid will become a serial killer. Or is it? Hehe. Anyways, soon enough I'll come down to Chi-town. I figure right now it's a little hard, but so tempting to leave BD behind with Daddy (even if it's just to see how he'd do with her alone for more than six hours). And if anything, Madison, is a cool place to carouse. No dress code, ultra relaxed and the drinks are cheaper. Not to mention, there's my house, Netflix and booze too! Sid — Wow. I think that you’ve got a leg up on me in the kid department. I still feel like I’m fumbling around in the dark at times. At least parenting is the one area where “good enough” goes alright. If you mess up every now and then in little ways, it’s not like your kid will become a serial killer. Or is it? Hehe.

Anyways, soon enough I’ll come down to Chi-town. I figure right now it’s a little hard, but so tempting to leave BD behind with Daddy (even if it’s just to see how he’d do with her alone for more than six hours). And if anything, Madison, is a cool place to carouse. No dress code, ultra relaxed and the drinks are cheaper. Not to mention, there’s my house, Netflix and booze too!

]]> By: Sid http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7968 Sid Fri, 28 Dec 2007 06:04:06 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7968 Don't get me wrong. I really like Chicago. I just think NYC has a lot going for it, what with being under 2 hrs train from my fam, all my fave foods within a 30 minute walk, and being where all the big fish go to be anonymous and all. Still, I think Chicago has been very good to me. I have friends here, and a job (found in under 6 mos--2/3 the time I searched in NYC) and very affordable living, and great culture. I just think you have to have a bit of self-loathing mixed with huge dreams to want NYC, and once you live there...well, it's unlike anyplace else. It gets to you. Under your skin. Cliche, but true. I hated it for almost a year. Then one day, I realized it was a remarkable place. Foolish? Maybe. Insanely difficult? Absolutely. But really, nothing worth having is easy. And, for what it's worth, Chicago is still an amazing place to be. Funny, I guess I moved "down" from NYC, but this ain't no backwater. It's still a big, hard, proud city, and I'm happy to be here, getting by. And yeah, kids. I love them, in spite of the challenges. I've worked with them, and they made me nuts while they brought me joy, and I'm the eldest of a half dozen sibs. I'm not...inexperienced. People have offered me six figures to help them manage their brood. It took some distance from my past to acknowledge it, but yeah, I want a family, and I know I could raise one, well. Not easily, but well. V: Merry Christmas to you and the fam, too! I'd be honored if you'd let me spend some time with BD, solo or otherwise. When you coming back to the area? (With BD or on an escape, I'd be thrilled to go carousing with you again!) Urs and K: Thanks for the encouragement. Alas, I don't know where to begin (or how) to make that a "priority!" Yes, I want those things...eventually. But considering how tough it has been to find someone I'd like to be involved with casually, let alone seriously, I'm not holding out much hope for 2008. And I can't bring that kind of load to bear on any involvement right now. That's one of my concerns. I know I want a family, but I also know I don't want one today, and probably not within the next 5 years. I just...I can't imagine finding someone I love and respect enough to want to bear their spawn, and then NOT taking several years to enjoy them before adding the burden of children to that equation. Thank Yaweh I believe fully in adoption. More thoughts, but I'm tired now. Sigh. Don’t get me wrong. I really like Chicago. I just think NYC has a lot going for it, what with being under 2 hrs train from my fam, all my fave foods within a 30 minute walk, and being where all the big fish go to be anonymous and all. Still, I think Chicago has been very good to me. I have friends here, and a job (found in under 6 mos–2/3 the time I searched in NYC) and very affordable living, and great culture.

I just think you have to have a bit of self-loathing mixed with huge dreams to want NYC, and once you live there…well, it’s unlike anyplace else. It gets to you. Under your skin. Cliche, but true. I hated it for almost a year. Then one day, I realized it was a remarkable place. Foolish? Maybe. Insanely difficult? Absolutely. But really, nothing worth having is easy.

And, for what it’s worth, Chicago is still an amazing place to be. Funny, I guess I moved “down” from NYC, but this ain’t no backwater. It’s still a big, hard, proud city, and I’m happy to be here, getting by.

And yeah, kids. I love them, in spite of the challenges. I’ve worked with them, and they made me nuts while they brought me joy, and I’m the eldest of a half dozen sibs. I’m not…inexperienced. People have offered me six figures to help them manage their brood. It took some distance from my past to acknowledge it, but yeah, I want a family, and I know I could raise one, well. Not easily, but well.

V: Merry Christmas to you and the fam, too! I’d be honored if you’d let me spend some time with BD, solo or otherwise. When you coming back to the area? (With BD or on an escape, I’d be thrilled to go carousing with you again!)

Urs and K: Thanks for the encouragement. Alas, I don’t know where to begin (or how) to make that a “priority!” Yes, I want those things…eventually. But considering how tough it has been to find someone I’d like to be involved with casually, let alone seriously, I’m not holding out much hope for 2008. And I can’t bring that kind of load to bear on any involvement right now. That’s one of my concerns. I know I want a family, but I also know I don’t want one today, and probably not within the next 5 years. I just…I can’t imagine finding someone I love and respect enough to want to bear their spawn, and then NOT taking several years to enjoy them before adding the burden of children to that equation. Thank Yaweh I believe fully in adoption.

More thoughts, but I’m tired now. Sigh.

]]> By: K. http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7966 K. Fri, 28 Dec 2007 00:06:07 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7966 I'll be straight up, Chicago is not for everyone. It's big and busy but not particularly fabulous and you have to work hard to make it like you and be your friend. It's like a mangy cat in that way. But it can be pretty cool if you stay away from the bullshit. But I guess that's anywhere. As for nesting and all that, I agree. I think if you want a family life, and make it a priority for the new year, it will come your way! Happy Holidays. A gift from me should be waiting for you at your home. I’ll be straight up, Chicago is not for everyone. It’s big and busy but not particularly fabulous and you have to work hard to make it like you and be your friend. It’s like a mangy cat in that way. But it can be pretty cool if you stay away from the bullshit. But I guess that’s anywhere.

As for nesting and all that, I agree. I think if you want a family life, and make it a priority for the new year, it will come your way! Happy Holidays. A gift from me should be waiting for you at your home.

]]> By: V. http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7965 V. Thu, 27 Dec 2007 03:41:23 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7965 Word of advice for the kid: You will never, EVER be fully prepared for a child. You think you will be, but in reality, it's going to be crazier. It's like living in the middle of a hurricane. I once said I wanted a kid because I needed more chaos. Boy howdy, did I get it. That being said, if you want to take a kid for a test run, I'd offer up BD to ya for a weekend or so. And Merry Christmas! Word of advice for the kid: You will never, EVER be fully prepared for a child. You think you will be, but in reality, it’s going to be crazier. It’s like living in the middle of a hurricane.

I once said I wanted a kid because I needed more chaos. Boy howdy, did I get it.

That being said, if you want to take a kid for a test run, I’d offer up BD to ya for a weekend or so.

And Merry Christmas!

]]> By: Ursula http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7964 Ursula Wed, 26 Dec 2007 00:15:21 +0000 http://siddityinthecity.com/2007/12/25/and-to-all-a-good-night/#comment-7964 Chicago isn't a bad place to be, but I do understand that feeling of wanting to be someplace else. As for the whole husband/family thing, if you know that's what you want, make it a priority for 2008. I know this sort of goes against most of what we are told, but no sense waiting around hoping that its going to fall in your lap. You've got to live life to the fullest and put yourself in places were the probability that you'll meet someone who shared similar goals and values is greatly increased. But hey, enough of that. Here's wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. of that. Here's wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Chicago isn’t a bad place to be, but I do understand that feeling of wanting to be someplace else.

As for the whole husband/family thing, if you know that’s what you want, make it a priority for 2008. I know this sort of goes against most of what we are told, but no sense waiting around hoping that its going to fall in your lap. You’ve got to live life to the fullest and put yourself in places were the probability that you’ll meet someone who shared similar goals and values is greatly increased.

But hey, enough of that. Here’s wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. of that. Here’s wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

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